Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Will the Real Dad Please Stand Up!

Ric Callahan, Minister to Families and Children, FBC Pell City, AL. Church Strategist with Unlimited Partnerships
Recently, I wrote this letter to the Dads in our church. I thought it might be a “good word” for the dads of your ministry as well. Those of us in ministry see family challenges all around us.  Many of us have our share of family issues in our own homes as well. I believe that most of the struggles we deal with in the church and society are related to the lack of fatherly leadership in the home. This article addresses one main area, but challenges men to “step up” and lead.
Today, it seems as if many dads have forgotten who they are and what they are suppose to be doing.  And the area where fathers are missing in action perhaps more than any other is in the formation of their children’s sexual attitudes, values, and behavior. Unfortunately we have to admit that, in many cases, Christian dads aren’t fairing much better than the dads of the world in this area.
It’s time that Real Dads, dads who take their responsibilities seriously, stand up and help their kids form a godly sexual identity. A dad should be a child’s best source for the truth about sex. Dad, if you want to raise godly kids, you can’t “check out” on this one. Today is the day to discuss this matter with your spouse and determine a plan of action to cover this important subject. 
Let’s get real. By the time a child is in the third grade, he or she is at least recognizing differences in boys and girls and is already talking about sex. Your children need to know that if they have questions about sex, you are the one to ask. You can give them true answers. Who knows what answers they are getting elsewhere. You get the privilege of setting standards for your child in this area.  Wow, what a privilege!
Here are some steps to take on this pathway to purity:
  1. Stay involved in your children's lives, especially as they become teenagers.
  2. Help your child understand that sex is serious.
  3. Help your kids see their true worth and value before God.
  4. Remind your sons and daughters regularly that it is worth the wait to keep themselves pure until marriage.
  5. Teach your children to live from a Biblical perspective.
  6. Partner with your church in setting the highest possible standards for your children.
  7. Warn your children about the consequences of sin.
Consider sharing these Bible passages with your child:
  • I Corinthians 6:9-18
  • Romans 12:2
  • I Timothy 2:9-10
  • Colossians 3:17
  • Romans 13:14.
Dads… take the stand; be a dad who honors God.  Don’t Wait.  Start today!